People Set Boundaries Because They CARE

Episode 15 July 17, 2022 00:22:42
People Set Boundaries Because They CARE
Direct Impact
People Set Boundaries Because They CARE

Jul 17 2022 | 00:22:42

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Andrea Epting

Show Notes

We previously broke down how to set boundaries in episode 11, let's take it back a step and talk about when and why...

Episode Highlights:

1. Ingredients of a boundary: Clear, Assertive, Relevant, Explicit

2. When to set boundaries - when repeated interactions result in negative emotions (being unloveable, resentful, defeated, guilty, taken advantage of)

- Leave you feeling dysregulated - outside of window of tolerance of emotion (move into fight, flight, or freeze and appease)

- When I interact with ___, do I walk away feeling energized/positive/supported or discomforted/dis-eased/dysregulated?

- Usually with people closest to us

3. Why set boundaries?

- To establish and maintain healthy relationships and gives opportunities for change and growth

- Comes out of structure, boundaries, clear communication, and respect

- Be mindful of the reaction - can this person hear you? Respect you? Follow through?

4. CARE acronym

- Clear - say what you mean, elaborate

- Assertive - be heard, repeat it again if needed

- Relevant - real, loving, compassionate, generous

- Explicit - be bold, be honest, teach them what you need and who you are

Call to action: Pay close attention to your interpersonal relationships, how you feel when you engage with them.. Do you need to set any boundaries?

Link episode: s2ep11 - boundaries

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